Singleness is a gift, so learn to rejoice in this gift God has given you.

We want to pull our hair out every time we hear this. This has become something of a pet peeve with us in our ministry to so many dearly beloved single Christians because it is not true. For the vast majority of adult Christians, singleness is not a gift.

-Holding Hands, Holding Hearts by Richard D. Phillips

So we’ve been taught lies my fellow brothers and sisters. It’s not a gift! When I read this I nearly pulled my hair out. Everything I’ve come to know about “blessed singleness” is a lie. It sucks. It really does. Here’s my second life verse (1 Cor. 7:7-8) saying that it’s not good for a man to be single at all. Now I don’t mean right off the bat he should date the first girl he sees, no, that’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is that eventually we all have to get married. This book opened my eyes to a lot of misconceptions I had about singleness. This being just one. Along w/ Gen 2:8, it seems like every verse is against me. There’s no real way to be single and be happy. Not saying that being in a relationship is smooth-sailing either. Both have trials and both have their moments. I guess in a long-term way, we shouldn’t seek to remain single forever.

I don’t know if it’s just me, probably is, but I really wanted to remain single. I know it’s “bad” of me to think this as I’ve just been shown by this book that pretty much puts down my kind of thinking, but agh idk. I’m really torn by the book itself. Not that it’s a bad book, it’s honestly a really really good book, it really is! Like I said, it’s made me cry! The first and last chapter just irk me is all. Everything in between is a-ok with me XD.

So my next point: I’m only 19, I get this. I’m “young”, I’m “wild” and I’m … well I really am free (from judgement). But seriously, I know I’m young and still haven’t really “lived” much but idk, a relationship never interested me. I take that back, at one point it did like getting married and having kids and all that jazz, but now I’m just indifferent to it and accept I’ll never get married or have kids of my own. Now I’m not interested in one and it’s not just because of the work of having to put into one, but more that I just don’t have a desire to get married or date. This may come as a shock, especially in my generation where at 19 you’ve already had your first kiss and first date and first like everything, but eh idk. I guess I’m just different and weird. *sigh*

In 10 years I’ll probably have to delete this post as God will change my heart about this and put a girl in my life, and if He does, so be it. If not, then so be it. I’m up to whatever for His will

Want to make God laugh? Tell Him your plans

Ranting with magnitude and direction…


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    A year later… and I’m 20 and this still holds true. Crazy…
  4. toknowgod said: I had a good time reading this :)